January 3, 2020

How To Beat Imposter Syndrome

Imposter syndrome can be defined as a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success. ‘Imposters’ suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence. Or, in other words, ‘I’m A Total Fake And Everyone Know It’ Syndrome. Imposter Syndrome is the […]

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January 2, 2020

Note To Self

Every year on the 1st December I unpack the Christmas decorations. Every year I find a very useful note I’ve written to myself saying ‘These are the tree lights. Stop buying so many decorations.’ Other than saving me time and money and avoiding being tangled in a load of duff lights, there’s something lovely about receiving […]

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December 26, 2019

Find Your Why

I have just returned from northern Iraq, where I have been training Iraqi psychologists working with survivors of ISIS. It was a profoundly moving and humbling experience. And it wasn’t easy. The students are wonderful but teaching is hard, and obviously the things we are talking about are deeply traumatic – beyond what any human being […]

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September 2, 2019

Want to press pause? Then think S.L.O.T.H

Recently someone asked me how to press pause in moments of trigger so she didn’t keep playing out the same responses. That was a really great question. Who doesn’t struggle with that? I know I do – mainly flying off the handle too quickly and jumping to conclusions and causing myself a lot of unnecessary suffering.  As […]

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5 Tips To Deal With Holiday Anxiety

Holiday anxiety

​Aaah, holiday season is here again. Floaty dresses, bright blue skies, cocktails by theside of the pool…and your anxious mind. We work hard. Holidays start to mean an awful lot, both in terms of time and money. When we visualise what holidays will look like, we often have a slightly (VERY) rose-tinted view. So when […]

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June 16, 2019

Your secret superpower to manage your mind

You are not your thoughts. Damnnnn. That blew my mind when I realised that. We privilege our thinking self. That’s the part that problem-solves, analyses, judges, comments. All things that are important for us to plan and achieve.  But it can go wrong. We can get so caught up with our thoughts – especially the self-critical ones […]

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June 10, 2019

Why Girls’ Goals Matter On and Off The Pitch

My 7 year old daughter drew this picture whilst we were watching England women play their first match in the Women’s World Cup. I kept glancing at it through the match. Something felt odd about it. And now I’ve realised what it is: I would never have drawn a picture of a woman playing football when I […]

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May 22, 2019

How to beat the motivation trap

​The Myth of Motivation How do you solve a problem like motivation? Can you sing it to the tune of ‘how do you solve a problem like Maria?’ Ok, probably not. It can seem like motivation is the obstacle between you getting the life you want:I’ll go to the gym when I feel a bit […]

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May 16, 2019

How to be kind to yourself

Look at any self-help section of any bookshop, and you’ll find books on books on how to improve your self-esteem: self-esteem for working women, self-esteem for new mothers, self-esteem for your teddy bear, self-esteem for when you hate yourself, self-esteem for when your cat ignores you… For many years we’ve thought that self-esteem – that […]

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