Category Archives for "The Mind Minute"

February 18, 2022

How To Salvage A Bad Day

​Sometimes you wake up and it’s just one of those days. Here’s five ways to save the day. Move Yourself. It seems to me that there inverse relationship between physical activity and overthinking. The more you sit, the more your mind moves. The more you move, the more your mind naps. Go outside. Fresh air solves a […]

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December 6, 2021

How To Cope With An Emotional Storm

This is a great exercise to do when you find yourself in an emotional storm. It will keep you steady so you can choose what actions you take rather than switching on your autopilot. It’s called Dropping An Anchor (Harris, 2009)Push your feet hard into the floorSit forward in your chair, and straighten your backPress […]

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October 25, 2021

One Key Question To Ask Yourself

The key question to ask yourself is this: ‘What am I willing to feel in order to live the kind of life I want?’[KM1] instead of this: ‘What can I do to stop feeling this way?’ You and I are not in total control of our emotions. We can influence them at times and avoid them for a bit, […]

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October 11, 2021

How To Take An Emotional History

​It can be helpful to ask yourself what you have learnt in your life, and especially in childhood, about emotions. Think about the following:What emotions were off limits?What emotions were openly expressed?What did the adults around you do or say when you were upset?What strategies did people around you do to deal with difficult emotions?Do […]

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September 27, 2021

Clean Pain Vs Dirty Pain

There’s a lot of fake news going around about happiness. Perhaps the most pervasive one is that the normal state for humans is to be happy. We did not survive by being chilled out and happy.​ Now when we feel a so-called natural and normal ‘negative’ emotion, which might be totally appropriate, we think we have […]

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September 13, 2021

On Toxic Positivity

​Positive thinking isn’t always the panacea it’s cracked up to be. It all depends on context – when and why you use it. Sometimes it’s fine to fuse and really buy into ‘I am super-duper brilliant at parking’ or ‘I nailed that interview.’ But you can fuse to a point of toxicity – ‘I am […]

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August 2, 2021

How To Improve Your Worrying

 Our minds, sadly, are programmed to think about the future and predict what might go wrong and ultimately kill us. This jolly pastime is also, of course, known as worrying. You probably spend a lot of time worrying about how to worry less. This might include trying to drown yourself in positive thoughts or talk yourself […]

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July 12, 2021

On Coping With Disappointment

So, England lost. Not what I’d hoped for. I had face paints and bunting and everything. I feel pretty flat this morning. But it does feel different to other England footballing disappointments I’ve lived through (which have been numerous). And I think it’s this: because whilst we lost, I feel oddly hopeful. Hopeful because we […]

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July 5, 2021

Why You Should Throw Away Your To Do List

​ I am a list addict. If I had a personal catchprahse, it should be ‘Me Love Lists’. However, however. It has dawned on me that lists, as with everything in life, can become sticks with which we beat ourselves up. And the reason is this – the list can never end. Because that is the nature […]

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